WITH GREAT POWER COMES GREAT RESPONSIBILITY...
"Basically, nature wants you to have babies. Society wants you to pay to raise wage-earners, taxpayers, and cannon fodder for their wars. ...Saying no to that dictate of nature bestows quite a bit of...
View ArticleI AM BIOLOGICALLY CHILDLESS.
TO SEE NEW POSTS ON THE NYMPHE BLOG, PLEASE KEEP ON SCROLLIN'... THIS VIDEO IS JUST AN INTRODUCTION. HELLO, EVERYONE.
View ArticleTO BREED OR NOT TO BREED... in Marie Claire
Laura Scott interviewed me & lots of other childless by choice people for her book Two is Enough. And some of her conclusions appear on the website of Marie Claire, archived from the October...
View ArticleTHE REFERENDUM
Which lifestyle to choose? Kids to have or not have? Marriage to pursue or singlehood to live? Why so much snark, jealousy, and bitterness between "the referendums" of people who've chosen their...
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ABORTION DURING THE BIOLOGICAL CLOCK
"It isn’t very often that you’re called upon to make a decision that you know will affect the rest of your life, a decision that is irrevocable and defining. I chose to end the pregnancy for what I...
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I'LL BE ON NPR / OREGON PUBLIC BROADCASTING THIS WED. RE: CHILDLESS,...
New Oregon director Tiffany Lee Brown will be a guest on the Oregon Public Broadcasting show Think Out Loud on Wednesday, October 14, 2009. The show airs live 9:00-10:00 a.m. on National Public Radio...
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OBVIOUS CHILD
"Your pee smells like Cheetos" and "fucktard" are among the excellent lines in this short, Internet-viewable film. That alone should recommend "Obvious Child," but it gets extra points for representing...
View ArticleSOME BY CHANCE, SOME BY CHOICE
Nancy Rome wrote a thoughtful piece for the Washington Post that captures some of the breadth of the childless/childfree experience (at least for women). She spoke with 100% childfree by choice women,...
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FEMININITY, WOMANHOOD, GENDER IDENTITY, & REPRODUCTION...
Commenters to the Nymphe blog, and other places where I've been involved in discussions about the choice of whether to reproduce, have asked whether I feel like less of a woman because I chose not to...
View ArticleHEALING FROM THE GRIEF OF BEING CHILDLESS LEADS ONE WOMAN TO DEATH.
Desperately seeking healthy ways to grieve and move on? You're not alone. The question of motherhood or childlessness, for those of whom it happens to hit hard, can bring about deep grief and...
View ArticleEXPLODING, FERTILE HEADS.
"On the other hand do not discount your Athena-like brainchildren that spring forth from your temples. They too can take a life of their own." —my friend La M., to me, todayIn...
View ArticleCHILDFREE & CHILDLESS WOMEN BATTLE IT OUT WITH "THE MOMMIES"...
Homemaker-mothers stake out their territory after centuries of being treated like crap. Childfree and otherwise biologically childless women who will stay childfree are in the minority (20%) and seek...
View Article"REMOVE CHILD BEFORE FOLDING"
Here's another article about overparenting and helicopter parents. What I wonder is this: has the rising trend in overparenting contributed to the hostile atmosphere between childless people and...
View ArticleMOURNING WITH MARGARET
Do you not know how bleeding Leaves your mind and guts unheeding? Bleed; you are not like man, you With your ripe pear contracting, are you? Hm. As the end grows nearer You may come to hold it dearer;...
View ArticlePREGNANT WOMEN ARE SMUG. SO'S EVERYONE ELSE. WHAT TO DO?
There ain't many nice things about being waffly, making decisions you can't live with, weighing your options endlessly, and feeling unable to settle on one tidy identity. Mom? Nonmom? "TTC" Trying to...
View ArticleBeyond Logic, Beyond Regret: Why I Finally Changed My Mind
The biological clock, a beautiful experience being a stepmom, and being with The Luv of My Life conspired to bring me four-plus years of self-torture self-discovery. Logically, it did not make sense to...
View ArticleTHE CHILDLESS TRAVELER
"Having children, being part of the direct genetic chain of generations, is one way to be in the stream of life...But, being at the center of history, I realize, merely walking the streets of a great...
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GIVEAWAY: "TWO IS ENOUGH" BY LAURA S. SCOTT
I just discovered that I'd pre-ordered a copy of the book "Two is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Childless by Choice" last fall, before receiving a review copy. That means a brand-spankin'-new copy...
View ArticleVOTE: what should happen to this blog now that things have changed?
"I think you’re great. Don’t stop blogging. Please." A reader named Renée just sent me that, and dang, was it nice to read. "In my search to find some sort of familiar voice online… I found nothing...
View ArticleNO CHILDLESS FEMALE ASTRONAUTS...
...at least not in China. The Chinese space program plans to send its first women to space, but these women must already be mothers before they're eligible to take flight. "The insistence that they...
View ArticlePREGNANT LADY WANTS EQUAL TREATMENT FOR NON-PARENTS. FILM AT ELEVEN!
the following is extracted from email i sent to a friend today. we'd had a disagreement about child care and parental / maternity leave policies in the workplace, and she sent me a long, thoughtful...
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I'M STILL GOING TO EASTER ISLAND. I LEAVE AT 5 A.M.
(warning to childless people who've sought out this blog: the following post contains "ments" of sorts, discussing my crossover to biological parenthood.) I'm heading to Easter Island tomorrow. Rapa...
View ArticleNAVIGATING CHANGE: R.E.'s Christmas miscarriage and decision to remain...
"Although procreating was always the agreement between us, it isn’t what is best for our marriage. People, goals, ideals – they all change. I’m finding that the only way to sustain a healthy marriage...
View ArticleWhat IF we redefine Woman?
Watch this IF you've experienced Notbaby grief, whether due to infertility or other reasons. Watch this IF someone you know might be going through it. Watch this IF you think grieving childless people...
View ArticleTHIS BLOG STAYS. I CHANGE.
[THIS POST IS NNSFCL: NOT NECESSARILY SAFE FOR THE CHILDLESS] a note from the followup to my post that wondered, "What should happen to this blog now that I am not going to be biologically childless?"...
View ArticleNEW DATA ON CHILDLESSNESS COMPARES 1994 TO 2008. MOST PEOPLE: FEWER BABIES!...
Pew Research Center released a new report on who's having babies and who isn't. "Nearly one-in-five American women ends her childbearing years without having borne a child, compared with one-in-ten in...
View ArticleCHILDFREE & MIND CHANGERS ON OFFBEATMAMA
This post mentions pregnancy and such; it ain't fully childless-safe. Also, comments to the linked articles have a lot of moms and parents posting.Well, I'm sorta sad that I didn't take Offbeat Mama up...
View ArticleCOULD IT BE THAT THE CONVERSATION IS FINALLY GETTING MORE REASONABLE?...
Obligatory warning: This post mentions pregnancy but doesn't otherwise get deep into infant/preggo talk. Should be safe for most CF/CL readers, I think...The tenor of conversation online about...
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MEANING & BIGTIME SATISFACTION VS. MOMENT-TO-MOMENT "HAPPINESS"
Does Parenting Suck? Does parenting suck? Surveys and scientific data have sure supported that notion, indicating especially that for Americans, parenting is making people more and more "unhappy" over...
View ArticleALL JOY, NO FUN: CHILDFREE & CHILDED VIEWS TO PERUSE
Is parenting like being an ex-patriot or showing horses? Folks from across the spectrum weigh in, following The New York magazine article "All Joy and No Fun" by Jennifer Senior. The piece has stirred...
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My Fault, I'm Female...
MFIF—My Fault, I'm Female—is collecting everyday stories about how we are mistreated and belittled for being girls and women. Shouldn't be any big news to anyone who's been a chick for very long, but...
View ArticleMOVING BEYOND GRIEF: Advice from Sugar
My blog nattering may be helpful now and again, but I'm no Sugar on The Rumpus. Freaking great, amazing stuff. This Sugar post discusses grief, miscarriage, depression, and abused teens---yet it is...
View ArticleAFTER. Question #1: How's it going?
This post is not safe for the grieving childless. Disclaimer: All my posts here are about my personal experience unless otherwise indicated. In other words, if I were to say, "Getting a new haircut...
View ArticleChildless-or-free & Parents: Always the Twain Shall Meet
Babble.com ran a nice piece by a woman in the city whose next door neighbors—on the other side of thin walls—had a baby. A screaming, loud baby. But it's not an anti-breeder or anti-kid rant, just a...
View ArticleParenting: How I Failed to Lose My Identity
This post is not safe for the grieving childless.*Having a young child sucks the You out of you. This is my impression from listening to parents (particularly women) talk and reading their words. It's...
View Article"Traffic" by Kristy Athens
Good writing and good illustration and good collage and yes it deals with what some people go through when they cannot have babies and remember we never know how things are going to work out, even the...
View ArticleLet's Hear It for Aunties, Loud & Clear
For some bizarre reason, the New York Times won't allow commenting and conversation on this article. Too bad, because it might get some good stuff going!The piece celebrates childless/childfree aunts....
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Mother's Day for Everyone
For every son who cannot bring his mom breakfast in bed. Every daughter who grieves for the baby she never bore. For every mother whose child can't thrust a bunch of wilted dandelions in her hand and...
View ArticleToronto Childless-not-by-choice folks...
A Vancouver-based freelance journalist is looking to interview women in Toronto who are childless due to life circumstances (not by choice). Email marysezeidler@gmail.com if you want to help. I don't...
View ArticleInteresting Stuff! Miranda July / Sheila Heti / Sarah Manguso - Childless /...
Interesting forward from Miranda July's "We Think Alone" Project, http://wethinkalone.com/The email is from author Sheila Heti http://www.sheilaheti.net/ to another writer, Sarah Manguso. It refers to...
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